Today has been really hard. I realised something good though; I haven’t had a migraine once since we’ve had Sandy. When I get migraines, I get them bad. I’ve known people to often confuse a bad headache with a migraine, but they’re not even comparable. With me they’re pretty much paralysing in that it hurts beyond anything I’ve felt to do anything but lie down with my eyes closed (and even then the pain is incessant). They make me feel sick to the stomach and feel somewhat like someone has my head in a vice and is gradually tightening it. I remember one particularly bad one when I was living in Bristol where I tried to make it to the pharmacy on my own, as I was out of pills, and ended up curled up on the floor of a bus stop until some kindly passer by helped me to my feet. Okay, I know, you get the idea. I’m going on a bit here. The important and good thing is that I haven’t had one since we had Sandy.
Until today.
I’ve no idea what triggered it. It might have been another sleepless night. Sandy wouldn’t go down last night at all. It was really disappointing because I really felt like she was starting to sleep better. Not last night. She screamed and screamed any time I left her and was still up gone midnight. When I eventually did get to bed she was up every hour or so through the night. It’s the dreaded teething again. Will it ever end? I guess not for a while yet.
I actually felt reasonably okay this morning, for someone who has missed another night’s sleep. Now, I’m sure many people would say that doing the dishes is migraine inducing enough. Well, this morning it really was. It came from nowhere. One minute I was happily shouting out answers to Ken Bruce’s Pop Master quiz on Radio 2 (Sandy joined in too, though her every answer is either Bwaahh, waahhh, or A-ha. Maybe one day the question ‘who had a number one hit in 1985 with the single Take on Me?’ will come up and Sandy will be spot on.) The next minute wham!!! (no not another 80s band answer) it hit me; excruciating pain coming right from the centre of my head. I had to sit down and poor Sandy must’ve been quite perturbed by the sight of me whimpering and rubbing my head against the table.
It got worse and by late morning I could barely move. It’s hard enough normally but with a very loud and energetic baby to look after it’s torture. How do people do this? I guess you just do your best and struggle through.
It’s early evening now and a mixture of time and pills have eased the pain and I feel like I can see an end in sight. Looking back, if anything my love for Sandy has only increased further rather than the opposite. It’s her I feel sorry for. It’s not her fault I’m a useless lump today, not able to do anything. And she’s been AMAZING! It’s been so cute. Rather than getting stroppy at me just lying there or getting upset, she been giving me lots of hugs. She does the cutest thing when hugging me; she pats me gently on the back. She always does it, but today it felt extra comforting. The most adorable thing by far though, is rather than get upset with me not playing with her she’s subtly tried to involve me in things quietly. This morning she kept bringing books over to me and this afternoon she kept leaving toy presents on my lap.
And it could be much worse.
At least today she didn’t poo on my head.
See you soon,
Matt & Sandy.x
Things I learned today: Looking after a baby when you’re poorly is very difficult. It breaks your heart seeing them try everything they can to get you to play with them.
Poos: 1. Cleaning that up with a migraine wasn’t much fun.
Daddy skills: 3/10. Too poorly for Daddy skills today.